The Day Everything Changed
On May 12th, 2012, a warm spring Saturday, I was in my late twenties with a degree in economics, living in a downtown apartment, and feeling like the world was finally opening up. That afternoon, my mom called. Her voice shook. She said my grandparents were missing. They were in their early seventies. Their house was empty, but Grandma’s purse—something she never left behind—was still there.
Two days later, we got the call from the highway patrol. My grandparents had taken their lives together at a deserted rest stop in Utah’s west desert. No note. No explanation. Just silence.
At the same time, unbeknownst to me, my other grandparents—living hundreds of miles away in LaVerkin—had made a different but equally desperate decision. They moved into their garage. A dusty, cinder block space that smelled like gasoline and oil. They rented out their home to bring in an extra $1,000 a month—just enough to cover rising healthcare costs and groceries. That garage became their retirement plan.
Those moments hit me like a freight train.
They were my people. I loved them. And yet, even I hadn’t known how precarious things had become. No one wants to admit they’re struggling in their seventies. No one wants to be a burden. But the truth is, they felt out of options.
And that broke something open in me.